Song Meaning
The lyrics immediately plunge into a desire for escape, with the speaker wanting to be "in the ocean" to drown out external voices. This primal setting offers a refuge from the constant, oppressive narratives about "all the ways us girls can die." It's a visceral yearning for a space where one's own physical sensations, like scratching fingernails, can take precedence over fear-mongering words.
A profound bitterness emerges as the speaker contemplates how their value might shift posthumously. The lines "If I were dead, you would love me more" reveal a cynical understanding of how society often idealizes the deceased, especially women, while overlooking their struggles in life. This isn't a wish for death, but a sharp observation on the performative nature of grief and appreciation.
This cynical view extends to the "angels you've created" who would "lie about the way we really live." It's a biting critique of the sanitized, often false narratives constructed around women, particularly after they are gone. The ocean, in stark contrast, represents an unmediated, raw space where such societal fictions hold no sway, allowing for a more authentic, if aggressive, self-expression.
The lyrics powerfully articulate the exhausting burden of emotional labor. The speaker "tend[s] to your wounds as I bleed," highlighting a self-sacrificing care that goes unreciprocated. The other party remains oblivious, merely "talk, talking at me," culminating in the chilling realization that they actively "don't wanna hear me scream," underscoring a deliberate suppression of the speaker's pain and voice.